Love is patient, Love is kind....

So, it's been a while since I have blogged. I wanted to blog during my wedding, but it got very crazy and busy! This blog is really to just rant and rave about the stresses and fun planning a wedding was and can be. So to my readers, you may be past brides or brides-to-be, but hope this kind of helps you throughout your planning . Also to the wives, you can reminisce on how much fun it was during your journey of wedding craziness! I definitely had fun planning my wedding...and it was all worth it on JULY 24,2010.

Mind you, I am not a wedding expert, but I have been through it, helped planned with other weddings, and so I can let you all in on experiences that I have gone through and what I seen others go through. So if you guys need any help, just let me know :)

Planning a wedding isn't an easy job. Aside from work, or school, or whatever else you have going on in your life, you need to have patience and very good time management! Without those, you will definitely be a BRIDEZILLA (or in my words a "bitchzilla". haha) . I have seen it all! LOL. Dealing with a whole bunch of people ( bridal party, family, etc.) and your wedding vendors can get a bit overwhelming and frustrating . But ,that all comes down to how much patience you have. Yea, I was feeling a bit of everything during planning, but that's just how it goes. If you are an organized person, then put that to use when planning and gathering all your wedding info to make things run smoothly. Yea, not everything will be perfect, but at least you will have everything in tact so that you and your ideas are not all over the place. I suggest to purchase a wedding binder. You don't need a fancy smancy one; Get a 3 ring binder, note book paper, print outs from your excel docs (might I add, excel does wonders and helped me out a lot ) ,a folder and post its. That's really all you need.

help? someone? anyone? lol

I usually don't ask for help, and don't like to depend on others, and if you are like me....take your pride somewhere else because you will need all the help you can get! Even if it's little things that have to do with DIY (do it yourself) projects, to picking up supplies or etc., trust me, you don't have a thousand arms and legs. SO, put your bridal party to use!! What are they there for? Just to stand up in your wedding and look pretty? Well yea, that too...lol , but your wedding party are your closest, so don't think you are bombarding them with asking for help. If you have a BM that just doesn't want to help at all and doesn't offer the help, then you picked the wrong girl to stand up in your wedding! lol. just saying.  Also, ask your other friends to help, even if they aren't a BM. I highly recommend a Day-of Coordinator. I am so Thankful for my coord., Joy! If it weren't for her, I really think I would of became a bitchzilla. Ladies, it's your day, and you should be calm and relaxed the night before and morning of your wedding. Have your agendas and ideas ready for your coordinator so that you are all on the same page. You shouldn't have to be constantly on your phone trying to figure out what time this or that is going there or here, or can this person come to the reception now, or on the phone to figure out how you will get to the church because there's floods everywhere. ahahaha ( the flood part happened the day of my wedding). Thanks to my MOH's and Joy , if I had my phone on me, and I knew that the limo bus was going to be late or not even going to pick us up anymore, due to the hard rainfall/floods the night before and morning of, I would have went crazy, and balled my eyes out!! My girls knowing how I am, they were all surprised that I was actually calm and relaxed the whole day, despite all the "technical" difficulties of the limo bus in the morning and the party bus after the ceremony. What is a wedding without a little bit of "complications"?! In my eyes, it was still perfect and worth it all!

Here's a few of my DIY projects : 

thanks for your thoughts and concerns, but are you paying for my wedding? ;)

Remember, this is you and your hubbs' wedding, not anyone else. It's nice to get other opinions and inputs on things, but it's your day, not theirs.Yea, you might have to do something for your mom, dad, or aunts, etc., but you can't please everyone! I wanted to get ready at a hotel before my ceremony, but my mom wasn't having it because she wanted me to take pictures while I get ready at our house. So, I gave in, and did that for her....BUT that's it. hahaha. Oh, wait, one more thing. She also wanted me to have a runner at the ceremony, but I didn't want one because I didn't want to think about tripping on the runner if it got bunched up. Eh, it all went well, I didn't trip which is a good thing. Like I said, it's your wedding, no one else. We are lucky to have such supportive and loving family and friends, BUT you will definitely have HATERS as well. Honestly, don't let that phase you, because it sure does show how much of an ass they are making themselves look. People shouldn't speak unless they know, and really should be careful who they say things to. HELLO, how old are we?! lol. (and yes, you know who you are. no need to call you out. lol)  I didn't get married to please others. I didn't have to get "this" or "that" for my ceremony/reception to be in "competition" with another bride. My wedding, is my wedding. And that's, that. Wake up ladies, in every brides eyes, their wedding is perfect to them, so no need for BRIDE WARS! haha. There's just so many colors you could pick from to be your wedding color/s. So don't trip that someone you know has or had the same color, or the same style of BM dresses, or the same "theme" as you. You might have the same vendors as someone else, lol ......who cares!  Just remember , you were probably not the first to have a certain color, or theme, etcetcetc. just saying.

Oh, and about your guests and "plus 1's". Don't feel bad if you don't give your friend a plus one. Especially if they are not in a serious relationship or not even in one. You are not obligated to give a plus one to everyone. If they were your close friends, they would understand. Hey, if I had all the money in the world, I would invite ALL of my friends and sorority sisters, but, I am not made out of money. I am sure people understand how those circumstances go.  And to those who ask if they can have a plus one..... are you kidding me?! That's just straight up rude and not classy. Weddings are a joyous occasion, and guests should feel privileged to be invited.You are there to celebrate the couple and have fun, not sit at the table with your date. just saying.

HAHA...don't worry, I am almost done...kind of.

the bridegroom on a budget.

If you are a bride/groom-on-a-budget, it's ok ! Who doesn't want to save $$ on certain things. Pick a venue that suits you and that's affordable for you and worth your money. If you are looking to save a couple hundreds, think about it, if your reception chairs are decent looking already, ask yourself... " do I really want to spend $5 +/chair for seat covers?" In all honesty, if your chairs are nice already, no one will even remember what they sat on, unless you put a tag on it saying ," hey,remember me after this night, I am pinkbluepurple, and cost $5". hahaha.  I am not hating, just saying. I totally recommend them if the chairs are absolutely horrendous. Another way to cut costs and have fun with your bridal party, is if you or your friends are crafty, do a lot of DIY projects. From invitations, ceremony programs, seat cards/posters, decor, etc. ( and yes, I am offering my help and ideas if you ladies and gents need it. I love doing artsy fartsy crafts and such. So, just contact me with any questions.) Word of advice, don't wait last minute to purchase things or booking vendors last minute. The more you wait, the more money you pay and won't have. With my wedding, I was able to save a lot on expenses and I wouldn't have had any other way....I think?! haha jk.. (our money was well spent.......for the most part! lol) . We did a lot of DIY projects, having rehearsal dinner at my house, buying wedding things here and there and not waiting last min., catching a great deal on my wedding dress, and THE KILLER OF ALL......our vendors!

business and pleasure.
Pick your vendors wisely. Ask around for any recommendations, because sometimes if you pick a vendor no one has used for their wedding, they might suck and there goes your money! Ask your friends....especially if you have friends that are photographers, dj's, hair stylist, etc. You might actually get a great deal on vendors that do the same job as the "over priced" vendors. Just get your moneys worth! Things that I looked for in vendors were their personality and how "professional" they are. If I get a good vibe from people, then I'm good with them, otherwise...peace out! I was recommended to a videographer, and when I spoke to this person, he was totally unprofessional and his attitude over the phone was just not that great. So, I am so glad I went with my gut, and I couldn't have picked a better group of guys to join us on our day (Kinema)!  Make sure you guys sign a contract, and read it well. Especially if you and a vendor "agree" that they are doing your wedding, sign that contract or else you will be assed out when they book another wedding over yours. And yes, that has happened to several people I know. Also, make sure you know when you will be getting your photos and video back. You shouldn't have to wait a year to get all those back. So double check with your vendors when signing the contract.

Thank you again to all that helped make our wedding special. Especially to our Bridal Party and to....

our Cinematographers: Kinema Group 
THao+Jeni, Our First Same Day Edit from Kinema Group on Vimeo.

Photographer : Marc Yap  jeni + thao pic montage
                          Samuel Barr http://www.samuelbarr.com/


DJ : DJ JayFunk  Jay Funk's site


Day-of Coordinator : Joy Molano Vergara


Make-up : Chyla Carag

Hair: Genievie Rivera

Flowers/Cake: Paquito

(if you guys need any contact emails or #'s for the above,please let me know)


Venue/ Hotel: Drury Lane / Hilton Suites Drury Lane

Invitations:  RMD

If you are looking for more vendors, check out my friends @ http://www.mixmediaonline.com/ , and I also know more photographers, makeup and hairstylist, etc.






Well my brides/grooms to-be and wives/husbands, that's about it for now. Hope you enjoyed reading my hella long blog, but hope it helped out some how and if you have any questions or need help with anything, please do not hesitate to ask away! Good luck on all your planning and fun wedding rendezvous! Remember , its your day and you get to share it with your family and friends!

Congrats and Cheers to a new chapter in our lives!

Stay classy, ladies!  Cus I know I am. ;)